I know your problems seem bigger and harder to deal with than mine right now. And maybe they are. But righ now, I have listened to yours for a long time and I want to talk. Can you give me that? i wont ask more than once, i don have that assertiveness in me yet so if i ask and you keep talking, I will shut up and swallow my needs for you. can you be the person who will give me the time and space i need to do what you do so freely? Yes, your laundry struggles are valid, and your need to juggle the work schedules of two jobs and all these things that you, as my collective friends, have on your hands are important. But right now, my car is most likely totalled, my work life is a mess and i am taking on everyones extra again. Do me the favor and if you lessen a bit of my load, i can take on a bit of yours...